The life we as parents, siblings, and care-takers lead is not always an easy one when it comes to our lovely kiddos. It can be especially draining and bleak. But more than that, it isn’t always easy to be cheery and optimistic. I am here to tell you, my special needs community, that it is okay to feel this way. It is normal.
This is horrible, but I resent my special needs sibling 94% of the time. In all honesty, I wish I had a real brother. One that I could tease, and joke around with. Someone that I could reminisce with about our childhood and someone that I actually feel like I grew-up with. Instead, I just feel like a parent; except less than that even. It’s all horrible to think about, but it is the truth and it’s okay that I feel that way.
It is impossible for us to be optimistic all the time and have the “go get ’em” attitude continuously. Realism isn’t a fault, it’s just something we try and avoid sometimes.
Instead, as always, we can’t look at what they can’t do or aren’t capable of. We have to seem them with the beautiful qualities they have. What are they good at? What are their strengths? What makes you smile about them?
It’s okay to be pessimistic but you’ll never make it if that’s the only way you can see things. Time your time, have your down moments; then pick yourself up again. Above all else, find someone who understands what you are going through and how you feel. That is the best things you can do, not feeling alone is the best way to keep yourself strong.
Good luck 🙂