As I have said in previous posts, every person is unique and different; furthermore, every child and adult handles tantrums differently. For example:
My brother, when he was younger, would make this specific sound that indicated what kind of mood he was in. It was actually really really helpful. He had happy noises (or songs as we called them), agitated noises, annoyed noises, and completely over the moon MAD noises. This was crucial to our interventions for him. When he would make agitated or annoyed noises we knew that it was just a matter of time until we would experience a full blown melt down. And anticipating these melt downs and preventing them from occurring was our primary goal.
However, sometimes prevention is unobtainable and dealing with a bad tantrum is a reality most parents and family members and care providers are extremely aware of. How you handle your kids tantrum is completely dependent upon how he or she behaves. When I was younger, my brother was violent and would throw all his energy into harming the person he was going after. There are some restraint holds you could use to help keep your child safe, but realistically it is very difficult to get them into these holds without getting hurt in the process.
If there is a particular room or place you can confine the individual in then this could be quite helpful. Confining them to an area could limit any property damage behaviors, especially if the room is sparing in breakables; as well as keeping them safe and your self.
If your kiddo is self abusive there are mits and helmets available for their protection. In my experience, it is a lot easier and safer for your self to put these devices on before the tantrum arises.
It’s all about keeping your kiddo and your self safe above all other costs.
One of my clients is having extreme tantrums almost every day, this last one lasted up to 2 hours. Having an established emergency medication for extreme situations can be very helpful to you. However, you need other strategies, sometimes medications aren’t dependable and don’t work out how you want them to.
Something that helps for my client is having him lay down on his bed and covering him with a weighted blanket and having a fan blowing on him. The weight from the blanket really helps to contain his self abuse and brings him down slowly from his elevated state. Also, soothing and calming voices/talk telling him that everything will be okay and just being empathetic towards his situation really helps him.
However, there are times that he is in too much of a panicked state for you to safely help him. As I have said in previous posts, it’s important to know your limits, both physically and mentally. If you can’t take the strain it’s okay to call on someone (friend, family member, care provider) to come and help you. We all have our breaking points, and that is okay and normal.
In addition, as I have said previously, it’s important to know when to call 911. If you have done everything you can, medically speaking and physically and emotionally, and the person is a danger to himself or others, that is the time to call for extra professional help.
If you are a care provider it is important to have a list of your clients medications and allergies and medical number information handy for these situations. There also might be specific hospitals that would handle your kiddo better than others. It’s a good idea to have these things established and known before an emergency official is called upon.
If you are able to do so, I personally feel that it is in your kids best interest to go with them to the hospital. It is not a requirement, when the back up arrives and takes them away you can leave as well. Personally though, I know that if I had a limited understanding of what was going on I would be scared out of my mind. A familiar face and being told that everything would be okay is something that I would want in that situation; therefore, I would rather go with my kid then abandon them to the scary hospitals. All depends on what you are able to do and what you want to do.